"Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do because they want to do it."
By this quote, is that what a life coach supposed to do?
Find people's motivation so that they can proceed on to what they want to do in life because that's what they want and love it?
The question is how to get the motivation of people?
There is one such activity. I have invited Miss Dolly Parton, a very close friend of mine to participate.
1) Take out a piece of paper. As big as you can find because you need to brainstorm and mindmap at the same time.
2) Let your mind wander.
3) Think back of the oldest piece of memory that you have.
Parton: For me I thought of sand, sandcastles, evening 5pm, buckets, mum, pavilion, 8pm, sleeping on mum's thighs, force to bath, mum chasing, call my daddy, sobbing, climbing the chairs, kick the doors for fund, 7pm, strolling after dinner, birds chirping on trees, darkness, chong pang.
4) Think of the 1st job that you want as a child.
5) Nevermind if it sounds childish to you at your age. But at the age of a child, there is nothing wrong with the profession. In fact, there is a goodness in the profession that the child wants to emulate. Find out the reasons why you aspire to be one.
Parton: For me, the first job I ever wanted was to be a policeman.
Why?
Parton: Because my own father is one and secondly, it is a noble job, fighting crimes, outwit the felons, help others, show my abilities to the extreme. I even dreamt of becoming the first woman to yell command at the Padang during NDP.
The next question to ask is:
6) Why did you not follow the dreams?
Parton: For me,I had a physical limitation. Hurt myself during a ball game that torn my ligament. I don't think I can clear the physical 3 months training. I tried to find other job related to it like the executive admin officer but it wasnt to my liking as it is more desk job. Not the kind I envision doing it since young.
7) Put that dream mentioned as a branch on the mindmap for further reference and continue with the Q & A. It is important to cuss out the reasons for doing and not doing things.
AS Parton did not mind us revealing everything about her, we shall continue.
8) Let's move along time to the next point in your life where you had another dream.
Parton: Yeah, 9pm show, chinese dramas, 3 faces with Zoe Tay and Lin Meijiao. Love the character of Lin Meijiao. A successful lawyer with cars and a good career, fighting for the justice for the wrongfully accused. Stay true to what is believed.
9) Why did you not become a lawyer?
Parton: My level of english proficiency is low and I dont have the gift of gab. Plus, I am not so good in my studies so I cant be a lawyer.
10) When you found the reasons for not fulfilling the dream, it is good to probe further.For instance, I ask Parton what if you can do it?
Parton: I dunno. I will be leading a fulfilling life I guess.
11) Draw another branch on the mindmap and continue.
For the benefit of this post, the rest of the Peyton's answers are as follows.
Parton's 3rd dream
To be an actress, inspired by Romeo and Juliet (Baz Luhrman). To be able to try out different roles and the emotional states. To feel the glory of different era and able to bring joy and happiness to people while striking rich. Did not do it because of parent's objections and no CPF. Not a stable job and dont think can do it well because not so talented and pretty. Did tried to act and go for audition in the school's play but as unsuccessful. She tried to become the Asst Director of the play and she found it to be rewarding. However, she was too focused on her drama production that she neglect her studies and had a fallout with her parents.Her grades were horrible until she pull up her socks, cast the dream aside and continue her college studies. If she were to be able to do it, she will probably end up like Elvin Huang.
Parton's 4th Dream
To be a singer like Stephanie Sun. Loves the language and try to compose songs before. Lyrics after lyrics written and forgotten. However, she finds it hard to break into the market. She does not have the vocals or the resources to do it as it was an expensive hobby. If she were to be successful, she probably have a channel of her own on youtube and become a successful indie singer.
Parton's 5th dream
To be a lecturer. Loves the joy of imparting knowledge to young people but hated the admin work like discipline and results. Found that the tertiary level has less of that. However, it is a long way to go as it is heavy on the $$ resources and not sure if it is possible. If successful, hope to be like Robert McChesney with his famous theory, hypercommercialism. Another pet topic of hers.
Parton's 6th dream.
To be a TCM doctor. Do not believe in surgery that can cure all as invasive procedures may not be successful for all illnesses and may remove something important to health. Plus, the medical costs are too high and people cannot afford it. However, the level of proficiency of TCM here is terribly low and still requires 6 years to complete the TCM medical school. Not a feasible option.
12) After the mindmap of professions is done, check for recurring patterns and themes that has been existing for a child, there must be something that they are aligned to. Of course, there is a lot of dirt that need to be cleared so that the underlying truths can be gleamed from words told. The person may not be aware of what one is aligned to.
Comments:
From the above account of Parton, it can be seen she is bound by fear. She fear if she choose one road, she will forsake other fulfilling and rewarding job.
She has a very distinct concern for others, can see from the concern she had for others using her talents.
However, the need for recognition and desire for $ is very strong as well. She has the fear of not enough.
On the overall, of her mindmap of professions, she seems to favour media industry. Maybe she can explore the media industry by trying out different professions eg photography, video editing, scriptwriting and directing and see which one she likes best.
Hope you find it interesting to do. Try it yourself and maybe you can find the motivation of your life.
Find people's motivation so that they can proceed on to what they want to do in life because that's what they want and love it?
The question is how to get the motivation of people?There is one such activity. I have invited Miss Dolly Parton, a very close friend of mine to participate.
1) Take out a piece of paper. As big as you can find because you need to brainstorm and mindmap at the same time.
2) Let your mind wander.
3) Think back of the oldest piece of memory that you have.
Parton: For me I thought of sand, sandcastles, evening 5pm, buckets, mum, pavilion, 8pm, sleeping on mum's thighs, force to bath, mum chasing, call my daddy, sobbing, climbing the chairs, kick the doors for fund, 7pm, strolling after dinner, birds chirping on trees, darkness, chong pang.
4) Think of the 1st job that you want as a child.5) Nevermind if it sounds childish to you at your age. But at the age of a child, there is nothing wrong with the profession. In fact, there is a goodness in the profession that the child wants to emulate. Find out the reasons why you aspire to be one.
Parton: For me, the first job I ever wanted was to be a policeman.
Why?
Parton: Because my own father is one and secondly, it is a noble job, fighting crimes, outwit the felons, help others, show my abilities to the extreme. I even dreamt of becoming the first woman to yell command at the Padang during NDP.
The next question to ask is:
6) Why did you not follow the dreams?
Parton: For me,I had a physical limitation. Hurt myself during a ball game that torn my ligament. I don't think I can clear the physical 3 months training. I tried to find other job related to it like the executive admin officer but it wasnt to my liking as it is more desk job. Not the kind I envision doing it since young.
7) Put that dream mentioned as a branch on the mindmap for further reference and continue with the Q & A. It is important to cuss out the reasons for doing and not doing things.
AS Parton did not mind us revealing everything about her, we shall continue.
8) Let's move along time to the next point in your life where you had another dream.
Parton: Yeah, 9pm show, chinese dramas, 3 faces with Zoe Tay and Lin Meijiao. Love the character of Lin Meijiao. A successful lawyer with cars and a good career, fighting for the justice for the wrongfully accused. Stay true to what is believed.
9) Why did you not become a lawyer?
Parton: My level of english proficiency is low and I dont have the gift of gab. Plus, I am not so good in my studies so I cant be a lawyer.
10) When you found the reasons for not fulfilling the dream, it is good to probe further.For instance, I ask Parton what if you can do it?
Parton: I dunno. I will be leading a fulfilling life I guess.
11) Draw another branch on the mindmap and continue.
For the benefit of this post, the rest of the Peyton's answers are as follows.
Parton's 3rd dream
To be an actress, inspired by Romeo and Juliet (Baz Luhrman). To be able to try out different roles and the emotional states. To feel the glory of different era and able to bring joy and happiness to people while striking rich. Did not do it because of parent's objections and no CPF. Not a stable job and dont think can do it well because not so talented and pretty. Did tried to act and go for audition in the school's play but as unsuccessful. She tried to become the Asst Director of the play and she found it to be rewarding. However, she was too focused on her drama production that she neglect her studies and had a fallout with her parents.Her grades were horrible until she pull up her socks, cast the dream aside and continue her college studies. If she were to be able to do it, she will probably end up like Elvin Huang.
Parton's 4th Dream
To be a singer like Stephanie Sun. Loves the language and try to compose songs before. Lyrics after lyrics written and forgotten. However, she finds it hard to break into the market. She does not have the vocals or the resources to do it as it was an expensive hobby. If she were to be successful, she probably have a channel of her own on youtube and become a successful indie singer.
Parton's 5th dream
To be a lecturer. Loves the joy of imparting knowledge to young people but hated the admin work like discipline and results. Found that the tertiary level has less of that. However, it is a long way to go as it is heavy on the $$ resources and not sure if it is possible. If successful, hope to be like Robert McChesney with his famous theory, hypercommercialism. Another pet topic of hers.
Parton's 6th dream.
To be a TCM doctor. Do not believe in surgery that can cure all as invasive procedures may not be successful for all illnesses and may remove something important to health. Plus, the medical costs are too high and people cannot afford it. However, the level of proficiency of TCM here is terribly low and still requires 6 years to complete the TCM medical school. Not a feasible option.
Comments:
From the above account of Parton, it can be seen she is bound by fear. She fear if she choose one road, she will forsake other fulfilling and rewarding job.
She has a very distinct concern for others, can see from the concern she had for others using her talents.
However, the need for recognition and desire for $ is very strong as well. She has the fear of not enough.
On the overall, of her mindmap of professions, she seems to favour media industry. Maybe she can explore the media industry by trying out different professions eg photography, video editing, scriptwriting and directing and see which one she likes best.
Hope you find it interesting to do. Try it yourself and maybe you can find the motivation of your life.
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